By Dan Savage
Published: 10/6/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My husband has a cuckold fetish, which we have indulged through two drunken threesomes with two of his best friends. The first time, he really had to talk me into it. The second time, he steered me in that direction and I took the wheel. I now have had sex alone with Friend 2 a few times. My husb...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 9/29/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a straight college guy, age 21, and I share a house with some buddies and a couple. Anyhow, the interesting stuff: This couple has been together for four years. They're both quite sexual, but she's got more libido than he does. I've got a big sex drive too. Both of them have stated an opennes...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 9/22/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a gay male and have been seeing a terrific guy for a couple of months. Two years ago, during an uncharacteristically wild few months in my life, I had a threesome with a couple, and as it turns out, my boyfriend is very good friends with them. We see them socially and have even all had dinner...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 9/15/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm sorry about sending this letter to you via snail mail. I don't want to send an e-mail because I'd rather not have a record of this living forever on some server somewhere. About six months ago, after watching my girlfriend insert a tampon, I asked if I could do it for her next time. She thou...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 9/8/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: A few nights ago, I got drunk and knocked on my roommate's door and confessed my attraction to him while he was lying in bed in nothing more than his Skivvies. (It was dark and I stayed at the door, so I didn't know that until after the fact.) And then I asked him if I could sleep in his room bec...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 9/1/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: Here's my problem: I love women. I love the way they look, I love the way they move, I love the way they sound. I like to see them naked. But the idea of actually interacting with women — trying to engage them in intelligent conversation without coming off as absolutely leotarded — ab...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 8/25/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I lost my virginity last night. I'm a straight male in my early 30s, so it was about time. It wasn't awkward, and we had a good time. However, I didn't climax during sex, which is a result of years of death-grip masturbation. (Thanks for the warning, Dan. I'm sorry I didn't heed it.) She took it...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 8/18/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My boyfriend and I are straight college students, and he's always wanting to try new things. Recently, he asked to put a finger in my ass while we were having sex. Someone did that to me before, but it felt uncomfortable and it kinda hurt. I told my boyfriend that he could do it once and then I w...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 8/11/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: Longtime reader, first-time mailer. A long while ago, you wrote an incredible piece of general advice for teenage boys. The advice was so excellent that I clipped it out to keep in case I ever had a son. Well, years later, I have a son. But I have since moved a gazillion times and across several...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 8/4/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My boyfriend and I have "history." We dated casually and weren't ready to stop seeing other people, so we had an open relationship. This phase was awful: lots of fights, a couple minor breakups, and eventually I called it quits for good, cutting off all contact. A month later, we starte...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 7/28/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: Ever since hearing you say on your podcast that all men use porn, I have had a burning question: What about us women? If all men get a pass to have this whole other sex life, which is (mostly) external to their partnerships and is sexually satisfying, then I think all women should have a pass as ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 7/21/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I was recently told that I am being puritanical and self-righteous because I can't get over the fact that my partner spends a good deal of time seeking out pictures of very young girls to masturbate to. Nothing illegal, he says, but still ... He admits to having a 20-year-plus addiction to porn,...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 7/14/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My boss and CEO lives and works in a different city, but most of her mail arrives at my office because it is the company's official address. I routinely open mail and packages addressed to her. Usually they contain documents for me to handle or software for me to install, but today I opened a pac...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 7/7/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My husband of eight years confessed to wanting to watch me with another man. I asked if he meant it. He said yes. I asked if he wanted me to set it up. He said yes. I found a guy, and he agreed to a full STD screening — at my husband's suggestion and our expense — so that we wouldn't ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 6/30/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I am a married white guy in my 50s. My wife and I do some role-playing where I am "Ted," her real-life father. In her script, I yell at my "bad daughter" (my wife) over some infraction and send her to her room. Later on, I sneak in and tell her that she could "make Daddy ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 6/23/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My friend is a gay-identified FTM. He's hot, he's cute and, above the waist, you would never guess what he's got down below. We love to kiss and cuddle, and from my end, his blow jobs are great. The problem is that I have no idea how to reciprocate. He isn't into anal (why would he be, without a ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 6/16/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a woman in my 20s, and I've been dating the love of my life for two years now. We are incredibly happy except for — guess! — we have different sex drives. When we first started dating, I initiated sex all the time and enjoyed it, but as soon as I started on birth control, my libid...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 6/9/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My husband was 28 and a virgin when I met him. When we started having sex, he opened up about being "different." He wanted to wear panties, he wanted me to have sex with other men, he wanted me to make fun of his tiny penis. Didn't love the stuff, but whatever. Now it's a thousand times...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 6/2/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a straight male college student in a relationship, which had been going great. The only incongruity was that, for a religious reason, I don't want to have penetrative vaginal sex before marriage. I'm up for anything else — I would eat her out, piss on her, whatever else — but not ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 5/26/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: Where can a straight guy find a transsexual woman who is not a hooker and just wants to be friends (with benefits)? I know of one club where they hang, but they are mostly hookers there. I would like to go someplace where I could meet one and see if we could hit it off and go from there. I know t...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 5/19/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: One of my best friends at college is gay. I'm a straight female and I'm in a committed relationship with my own boyfriend. We're going to be sophomores in the fall, and I feel like this is about the age where coming out to one's parents is in order. However, my friend's parents are incredibly con...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 5/12/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a mostly gay male with a boyfriend who is also mostly gay. We are into BDSM — we are both tops and sometimes play with other sub men. I say we are "mostly" gay because we do like to fuck submissive women once in a while. We haven't done this a lot, and never together because w...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 5/5/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I am a 28-year-old, post-op transsexual woman. I met a great 31-year-old guy. We have been dating for a year, and he recently told me that he didn't think he was sure he was in love with me. He said that he didn't know if he could give me any sort of commitment, that he is afraid of what his peer...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 4/28/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I read the letter from the woman who had cheated on her ex and now wants to patch it up. I have a similar situation, except it was my ex-girlfriend who cheated on me. We'd been living together for a few years — we were engaged — and then she suddenly moved out "temporarily" ...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 4/21/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a 27-year-old gay man. I had a really great first couple of dates with a guy, so for the third date I invited him to stay over. I cooked a nice dinner, we watched a movie, and we had a lovely time in bed together. In the morning, we had another romp. At one point, he was rimming me, and unexp...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 4/14/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I am a mostly straight, 22-year-old woman. I am a pretty GGG kind of gal. I am generally not put off easily, even if I am told things that don't quite do it for me. So I just started seeing this guy. I haven't known him for long — no serious sexual activity other than mild foreplay. The ot...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 4/7/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a young, straight feminist male, and I've been dating my feminist girlfriend monogamously for almost two years. Recently, I've been coming to terms with the fact that I am turned on by rape fantasies. Of course, I find the idea of actual rape repugnant, and this is probably, of course, an imp...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 3/31/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I am writing to you because I know my boyfriend reads your column religiously. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me yesterday over the fact that I used to be an escort. He went through my e-mails and saw that I was answering ads, putting ads up, sending photo...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 3/24/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: I'm a 23-year-old bi dude seeing a guy who is intelligent, sweet, attractive — the works. We've been together for six weeks. The problem is, after our first night together, I lost sexual interest in him. When I do get horny — which is rare at the moment due to work pressures — I...[MORE]
By Dan Savage
Published: 3/17/2010
Types: Culture, Love & sex
Q: My husband and I have been married for one year, but we had been dating for 10 years before that. I thought we had a very understanding relationship. In the last couple of days, I have found out that he has a serious obsession with females wearing running shoes. He had in the past hinted at the f...[MORE]
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